September 19, 2026

A few summers ago, my friend grace and I couldn't decide on our coffee order. This wasn't unusual for us. We'd regularly loiter in the gas station Dunkin Donuts contemplating over the menu. On this day in particular, we were plagued with a rather astounding case of indecision to the point that we left the gas station empty handed. So, standing uncaffinated and irritated in the parking lot, grace and I made a pact. Shaking hands, we agreed to simply be less indecisive over things and to hold one another accountable if we caught the other second guessing. We took our pact fairly seriously, and abstained from getting each others second opinions on the usual stuff like what we were going to wear, order, or do with our time. As good friends do, we granted one another no reassurance or help in petty choices. This had a compounding effect over the summer, and I noticed a subtle improvement in general lifestyle and happiness between the both of us. Things felt simpler and I appreciated the clarity brought down on me by this new black and white world. I was saying yes to more things, and stern no's grew my confidence. By the end of the summer, I was a firm believer that the happiest people are the ones who are the most decisive. In the growing years since then, I've come to recognize the limits to decision making. Investments in people, places, and paths make it scarier and less clear when its time to uproot an aspect of life and decide a New Way. This year, time and time again, I have come down with a case of The Indecisions, and time and time again, have thought back to that pact with grace in the parking lot. With each pensive choice, I am wistful and nostalgic for a time where it felt easy to decide things. Alas, a black and white perspective does not fit a colorful world. Today I hold the opinion that those who are the happiest are those who can sit with the weight of the decisions they make when they make one. Those who live with their soul, and who do the most for others. Those who look at the shades decision-making and hold gratitude in the simple blessing of being granted choice. (Thou mayest) Tonight I have come on here to remind both you and myself that if you are sitting in a hard life choice, it is okay to not yet know what to do. Acknowledge reoccurring thought patterns, listen to yourself, trust your gut and hold steady. Things will unfold as they are meant to and when the time is right, because believe it or not, some decisions require more consideration than the choice between a latte and a cappuccino.